Why the attraction to 'Unpredictability'?

In life we all crave for that feeling of stability, security and confidence which is kind of provided by the people who are predictable and mechanical in nature, but wait those people do not make life as interesting as you would want it to be. Many of the interesting people I have met have an edge of unpredictability attached to their personality.  Even many of the psychologists are of the opinion that it is human nature to get attracted to the people who are capricious and elusive in their behavior. While they may not quite give us the sense of stability but they do manage to stimulate the mind and make life free from boredom.

That is precisely the reason why people or couples I should say enjoy each other’s company when they are still discovering each other. Every new discovery is the cause of an excitement. And as time catches up, everything falls into a pattern. Nothing changes except that you know each other and then you start considering life as dull and uninteresting. The predictable sameness irritates; no excitement whatsoever. It is the unknown that entices and tempts.      

There is nothing more predictable than sunrise every morning and sunset that follows in the evening and yet we take it for granted. It is the unpredictable rainstorm that attracts rather than the unchanging pattern of sun.  Similarly, in life and relationships we get intrigued to the people who are unknown quantities with little known traits, and hence exciting for us. Even in a sport like cricket an unpredictable captain enjoys the advantage over others with his imaginative yet practical leadership. Unpredictability arouses interest. Only animals behave in set patterns and that makes them vulnerable but humans have the competency to cross the boundaries of habit and routine. Behavior that is inconsistent keeps people on their toes and spawns curiosity around a person. A relationship in which you expect the unexpected is the one that keeps you in a state of happy excitement. It also should provide us a sense of security but not enough that the bonding becomes dull.

Unpredictability can also be used as a terrorizing tactic if taken to an extreme. We all are fear which we do not understand or which is unknown to us. People in powerful positions always use this move purposefully to their advantage for unsettling those around them so as to keep them guessing.

 
However, being unpredictable doesn’t warrant a spur-of-the-moment reaction. For unpredictability to be used as an effective tool a proper method needs to be in place. It is also vital to understand our behavior and the usual prototype it falls into and then try to make hash of those usual patterns in an intentional manner to inject some zeal into life.